**************My own experience, I am not an expert*******************
How do you know when you like someone/something??
One simple answer: You start growing affection towards it/him/her.
We like simple things that are around us. They range from a family photo to a small bud in the lawn of ours. Some take our attention for a while.. while some take years of our attention with them.
It is so fast that we love them.. adore them.. admire them.. respect them.. feel for them.. protect them.. and finally loose them.. and after some time, the cycle repeats. This “some time” is the time period that one requires to forget the troubles/risks/problems faced in the time of relationship. But who defines this “some time”?
Frankly, no one. It just pops out of our mind.. that “Enough is enough. Let’s be together again”.
How does it all start? With a small feeling of Jealousy (1). That He/She/It is being taken care by someone else. We miss the patronizing feeling showered by us on it/him/her. Then it turns out to be Envy (2). Wherein we have a ‘feel good’ feeling that we are one among the many who/which takes care of it/him/her. It’s all good till this part. But we don’t stop here. We feel Possessive (3). That I should be given priority-1 among all other. Let there be many.. but I should have my own Importance. And the final stage – the mighty Obsession(4). That I should be the only one whom he/she should be thinking of, dreaming of, walking with, eating with.. etc etc..
At the end, we either realize that it/he/she is not worth for us or we are not worth for it/him/her. That is how we are out of the Obsession, which is good for both parties.
Being a GEMINI, all these four stages go very (damn very) rapidly with me. I have had many obsessions in my life. The first ever I had realized happened in the ending of my first year of B.Tech life. I have had many obsessions in my life since then (being a GEMINI, you are prone to be Obsessed J ). The proudest Obsession I, ever had, is with Skill Pool in my college.
When we know that something is dying in front of us, which we cared for, for 5 years, and still we can’t do anything about it but think of it for every minute – yes, we are Obsessed with it.
When we sit silently in the back seat, crying within (unknowingly), when our dear one ignores us while speaking with his/her dear one – yes, we are Obsessed with her/him.
When we think of someone who is an exact Alter Ego of our self and suddenly the thought comes out of our mind that He/She is not with us, while we try doing anything possible to get back her/him – yes, we are Obsessed with her/him